Mindy Kaling

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[03:01] seeing you and my dad like holding hands and jumping up and down together because you figured out you guys had the same birthday because he loves talking. I don't know how to say mom. [03:13] You both had your IDs out. I was like, cool, okay. I'm glad everyone's getting along. [03:20] Oh, my God. He's a September 16th girly. Yes, he is. Sadly, I've learned it's a very common. September birthdays are very common, I guess. Yeah, I guess people really get down. I know. What does it say about us? They get down in the holidays, I guess. I guess we get bored. We get bored and we're full. [03:39] Well, I remember I directed a film for Netflix called Moxie, [03:43] filled with an incredible cast. And I remember you came and joined us for a... [03:48] too brief scene, but a really fun day. And that's really cute that your dad and I bonded. [03:56] I was reading up on you, Vantika, and you're so impressive in the stuff that you've done. And I didn't know that you did a lot of Bollywood when you were younger. Yeah, it's how I started out. I think at the time I was 10 and Indian parents like to make safe bets. And it was not a safe bet at the time to be like, let's haul ass to LA and do this for the rest of your life. But India was a more prospective place if I wanted to be in the film industry. And so we moved there for like four years. [04:26] Yeah, yeah. My mom really, like, my mom left her job. [04:30] the day that I was born, she was like, I want to spend all my time with my daughter and

[04:35] she made a lot of sacrifices for me to be in this industry. So I'm, you know, very grateful that now she gets to like, [04:42] watch a TV show is like, I hope she enjoys. And yeah, she really is the reason that I'm here not to get all emo on everyone. I get seven in the morning for you. No, no, no. I'm ready to cry anytime, anytime. Okay. So let's talk about your boss. So we're, okay. So I'm interviewing Mindy Kaling today, whom I've known for a really long time. And I'm really excited to talk to her because, you know, we have a lot of similar, you know, [05:10] um, experiences and paths. And one of the things that I really want to talk to her about is like, what kind of boss is she? So the first time I ever met Mindy was in a parking lot, um, that she took me to in LA because I had DM'd her when I was 17 being like, I love you. I love you so much. And she was like, okay. She was like, yeah. Like, she was like, let me have my assistant schedule lunch. And I was like, oh my God, it's like, this is the most exciting thing happening right now. [05:40] strip mall. [05:42] And the seating is literally in a parking lot. And my dad was like parked 300 feet away. I love mentoring my dad. My dad's like making a re-up career in every story. He's just always proximate. And he's actually in the room right now. Can you imagine? But she took me to this French restaurant and was like, we need to try Ascargo if you haven't tried it already. So my first like one-on-one experience with Mindy was like eating snails and her being this very, she was like, tell me

[06:12] about your career. She was like, what do you want in life? And I think the one thing that always stood out to me about her and... [06:18] is one of Everett's favorite qualities about her, but having worked on this set, is that she's such a curious person. Mindy asks so many questions. She's just down to gossip. She's down to gab. She knows about my love life. She knows about all of our love lives. Mindy's just a really fun person to be around. I really wish this time around that we don't, because we're always scared of when we're going to lose Mindy, because Mindy's first priority are her kids and her life outside. [06:48] that we're going to get her claws in her and like... [06:50] If we get renewed for next season, she won't let us go. But she's the best. I think whether Mindy knows it or can really comprehend it or not, she's like a present figure in so many people's minds. A lot of people view Mindy as a friend and a role model or an idol, whether it be Kelly Kapoor or any of the characters she's created. Yeah, and as a young Indian woman watching her, what did it mean to see her... [07:18] you know, [07:19] like representing her life and on screen. Like what, what, what was that like as a young person? I loved Never Have I Ever. I mean, when Never Have I Ever came out in trades that it was getting made, I was like, this is the most insane thing like I've ever seen in my life. I was, I was in that, so I auditioned for Never Have I Ever and I was very young when I went out for it. But I remember being like in the waiting room, looking at the sign and sheet for, and being like,

[07:49] I remember telling my mom, I was like, can you please memorize the latter half and I'll memorize the top half. And then we can go and like DM their moms on Facebook because I really want to be friends with people in the industry. And we all know how well DMs work for you. It always works. And my tree was perfect for that role. And she did like so, so incredible. But all that to say, like she has a very odd, incredible way of bringing together community and bringing together. [08:19] off camera but also behind the scenes as well um and i think watching her on screen meant the same thing as representation means to more anybody which is that like oh people like me exist and people like me are deserving of being put on a big platform very cool okay so we we have um [08:35] We always do this thing where we ask our guests a question from somebody who knows them, respects them, works with them, loves and adores them. So what question do you have from Mindy today? I'd like to know for someone who's accomplished so much, like, what her personal, like, EGOT is. Like, what her... [08:53] four accomplishments that she wants to achieve in her life, like spanning four different categories. [08:58] that's such a big question I love it's a big question you'll get to so wait so the question is what like which is like you've done so much what more do you want to do it's sort of like like if I don't know like a personally got what you may like have four kids get a PhD spend like two years abroad like you know donating money and like the fourth one is like I want to skydive like it was like four things that you want to accomplish across like all sort of a breadth of categories

[09:28] Yeah, I guess that is like, I'm sort of just like, she's just, she's just done so much that I'm like, what more do you want? That, I mean, it's, it's an, I bet she'll have an answer. Also, there is a part of me that's like, or just rest. Rest now, darling. Right, right, right. Personally, God, get put in a cryo chamber. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I love that. [09:58] again. And it's so lovely to see you. And I know Mindy will be really happy that we talked. Congratulations on your new show, Not Suitable for Work on Hulu. And thank you so much for talking to us and for all the great things ahead for you. And such a pleasure to see you again. So good to see you, too. You too. Thanks so much for your time. Bye, honey. Bye. Bye. [10:20] This episode is brought to you by Allstate. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds [10:28] putting clothes in the washer? [10:30] Oof. Enjoy your freshly cleaned and completely destroyed earbuds. Yeah, checking first is a good plan. So check Allstate first for an auto quote. It could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions and availability. Allstate North American insurance company and affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. [10:51] Mindy Kaling is here, everybody. Took the red eye, which is, I just got to say, that's, that's brutal.

[11:00] I would do things. I'd shoot the office and then Friday night I was like, take the red eye, get into, I'd just be going back to Boston to see my parents. Yeah. And my dad would pick me up at Logan at six o'clock. We'd go to McDonald's and I'd just sleep for four hours. Yes. And now. I was just talking to our friend Rashida Jones about this. It's the lack of recovery. It's like we can, we can power through anything now, you know, like you just suck it up and power through, but it's, there's no day to sleep after. There's no day to sleep. No. [11:30] I just did a line of coke. Yeah, and we're flying! And that's how I'm doing great. We're going to brag about our careers, and then we're going to crash out in like 45 minutes. [11:41] But thank you for coming. Thank you for being here. I'm so excited to be here. I know, remember when we used to do David Letterman, and the producers would be like, do not compliment him. He doesn't know what to do with it. That's right. And you were like, oh, so it's like an insult to compliment a host. [12:00] I feel I felt like for other shows, too, I was like, don't do that. And then it feeds into a whole thing of like, it's not cool to compliment. It was very formative when that producer was like, don't compliment. So true. It's a hostile act. And yet I love compliments. [12:14] As a performer. And if someone came into my show and was like, I love the show. I feel like. I love to give. I love to get. I mean, literally, what are we doing? I mean, like, what are we going to be like mean to each other? Like the world is on fire. Like who. I love recognition. Praise. So I just want to say that I love the show. Thank you. I watch it with my nanny. And little clips on YouTube at night after the children are down. And it's, it's like, it's such an intimate thing to watch in the dark.

[12:44] Aaron Holtz, our buddy, our buddy. And then and then have our little ads on YouTube. You know, I was when I was getting ready for today, first of all. [12:53] Congrats on being a mogul, straight up mogul. Thank you. Thank you. [12:58] You don't have to explain. [13:01] You take it in. You are a mogul. Mindy, congratulations. Listen, listen. This is, I know I'm interrupting you now. No, please. Are you a mogul if you haven't invested in a restaurant or a sports team? [13:11] That's a great question. Just because I want to accept. We need to buy some kind of sports team. You're right. I'm like Austin Kutcher. Yeah, you're right. You know, like he owns Uber and Geisha House. But I'm driven to call more women geniuses and moguls and all that stuff because I think we just need to claim. Okay. So let's claim that. I'll take it. Let's claim that for you today. Thank you. And as a fellow Boston girl. Yes. I feel like when I was looking at, you know, kind of like looking at all the stuff you do and just thinking thematically about sports. [13:40] What to talk about today. I mean, we've had a lot of very similar paths, you and I, and not just because we were born like [13:49] you know, in close proximity of each other. Like, but we have really... [13:56] I mean, we've been in this biz for a minute. Been in this biz for a minute. [14:00] And we've been together in a lot of it. So it's very, very nice to see you and to have you here. I love being here and to even be... [14:08] Someone that you would say is on a similar journey because you were a little ahead. Yes, I was. I'm like about 10 years older than you. For my generation, for anyone who came up in New York and took classes with UCB and everything, it was like you were the one doing it. Like you were the one succeeding college.

[14:26] With all the mean, unaccepting men in comedy. Do you know what I mean? Well, yeah. I mean, I think both you and I are used to, and I want to talk about it. You and I are used to being... [14:37] one or the only woman in a room full of men a lot for a lot, especially in the beginning of our career and what, how that shaped us. [14:45] Cambridge, Massachusetts. You're born and raised. Now, Cambridge was always where smart people were. [14:51] people lived and their smart parents. Yes. Did you have, were you considered like a smart kid in school? [14:58] I was always considered a bright kid. When I was younger, I think I was like kind of silent and chubby and friendly. And that was my vibe and not funny. But that was back. I don't know if you felt this way. That was back in the 80s when like. [15:13] girls weren't really supposed to be funny. Right. They were kind of good laughers. Good laughers. Yeah. And if you were funny or tried to talk too much, it was kind of like you had problems or you were, like, disruptive. You're right. Like, the mischievous girls were the class clowns, which I look back now and— [15:32] They were just like feisty, interesting young women, but people thought they were kind of troublemakers. Totally. At least in my school. Being Indian, too, was so far from the—but also, like, I felt like I was still just, like, observing. But I noticed that, like—it wasn't until I was, like, in middle school where I was, like, the class clowns or guys were just, like, kind of outrageous. They weren't really funny. Yeah.

[16:02] someone who's funny, it was like all just like one thing. Totally. No one was examining it. Right. And I think that for my parents too, like at that time, being funny in school was so tied to like kind of like an, again, disruptive, like non-academic. Yeah. Like you don't have a good path if you're like a funny kid. That's what I mean. Yeah. You're kind of like, you're speaking out in class. You're kind of not paying attention. And I bet you had the same thing. I mean, maybe, maybe even more because your parents, you know, [16:32] your mom was pregnant with you? Yes. And so like, you know, they're like, we don't need you to be the one that's cracking jokes in class. And I had parents who were... [16:42] teacher so it was like don't like the funny kid is the one that's often like [16:46] the teacher is having to deal with. Having to deal with. But they call you Mindy. [16:52] Your nickname, because from Mork and Mindy. Mork and Mindy. So it was a real, like— That's a real mixed message. Well, my parents immigrated here in the 70s, and nobody in entertainment on either side of the family, but they did, like, love comedy. Loved it. Like, and I think for us, too, where it's like—it wasn't like we were coming home and having, like, these, you know, always, like, these deep chats. Yeah. But we would just, like, sit in front of the TV— [17:18] and watch mussy tv they love seinfeld um they love friends they love the cosby show is that sure i mean we all did at one point at one point right i can say one point um but i remember so distinctly when i was like 11 or 12 and i was of course like obsessed with saturday night live yeah we would watch chris farley that was that your like cast yes it was like sandler chris farley but honestly like from dana carvey to bill hater feels like the time which is a long span yeah

[17:48] Yeah. But we would see, is it Matt Foley? Yeah. Matt Foley. Yeah. That character, Chris Furley's character, Down by the River. Down by the River. Classic, iconic character. Yeah. And he's like, I think one of the funniest people of all time. I agree. And when he, you know, he'd fall on the coffee table. And I remember laughing at it so, so much and showing it to my parents, like recording it. And I remember my mom being very worried and being like, because I was overweight. And I think she was like, and so she was like, I don't. [18:18] She once sat me down when I was like 14. I was like, I don't want you to be like that. Oh, that's really interesting. Right. Like, don't don't feel like you need to be a clown. And I think she thought that like, OK, my overweight daughter, who is not fitting into like the mainstream of culture, will feel like the way to be accepted and funny is to be like Chris Farley. Now, the majesty of Chris Farley, like I would only be so lucky as to have been like Chris Farley. But as a girl in the mid 90s, that was like not a great. [18:47] path. I love that we're talking about this because it's such an interesting... [18:52] point which is [18:54] Young women, especially in the late 80s and 90s, their way into comedy, like how you get in— [19:01] was really fraught in a way that men just did not have to worry about. They didn't have to worry about being physical and not seeming like it was putting people off. They didn't have to worry about them being too sexualized. They didn't have to worry about a ton of stuff. I think that— [19:18] much like you watching comedy at a young age and being like, I don't know, I want to, I want to live in this world. I don't know how to get into it. And it was inhabited by really loud physical men for the most part. And then finding the women who I loved, who I just kind of studied. And for me, it was like, okay, where did they study? Where did these women start? So it was like, oh, I'm going to go to Chicago. Like, I'm just going to go there. And when you were

[19:46] Like, did you do comedy at Dartmouth? Yeah. Did you do improv? I did short form improv. We all did. You know, it's so funny. The two things that brought me so much joy in college are so mortifying to me now. But it's where I made so many great friends. I did short form improv with the Dog Day Players at Dartmouth. [20:02] And I was in a dog day players still there. Dog Day players is still there. Incredible. And they're so and every so often, like every couple of years, I'm sure you feel as well. Like they'll come to L.A. and I'll meet them or I'll see them at Dartmouth when I go up. And they're so cool now. And they do long form. And they they also have that like studying thing where they've seen every episode of Parks and Arrested Development, Larry Sanders. You know what I mean? They know everything. A kinship to these people that are 25 years younger than me. [20:32] the difference is that like, [20:35] The guys in the troop are feminist. The women are unafraid to be who they are. They're all sort of activists. Like all the stuff that I struggled with back then to do because it wasn't appealing. Yeah, we all did. I wanted to be— [20:50] as like funny as Adam Sandler and do Opera Man, but I also wanted a boyfriend and to lose my virginity. And in the late nineties, it was like those two things were maybe like, did not, they seem mutually exclusive. Oh yeah. Acapella group you were also in. I love an acapella group. Yes. Yes. I was in an acapella group. And what song did you ever have a solo? I had one solo. And what was the song? Nine to Five by Dolly Parton. Yes. Um, sang it badly. It was one of

[21:20] You know what's nice is like I don't have a good voice, but I have like a I can like carry a tune. I think I have a good enough voice for a comedy person. And it was like that nice thing about being in a group of women because they're like clearly one person should have all the solos. But they're like, no, no, no. Of course. That's not nice. Like let Mindy have a solo. So we would I would sing nine to five. Yeah. And that acapella group's name was. [21:42] "Hey man, [21:44] It was called the Rockapellas. Okay? I mean, I just, I love, I love a pun. It's called the Rockapellas. At the time, it was considered to be the coolest thing [21:54] the coolest group if you were a woman at Dartmouth. Of course. And I mean, I, from my humble opinion, it was. I think acapella is very cool. And also now I would say it is cool because. Amy, this is such a bunch of bullshit. Like you're being so nice here, but it's so lame. No, no, I disagree. I don't. Here's why. Because even then, I don't even mean in hindsight, anyone who tries something. Yeah. Okay. That's cool. I guess if you apply like the golden rule of like, we should all be [22:24] then it is cool. But it's like a bunch of people being like shooby-dooby-bee-bop. I know. That's not... I know. It was the same thing with improv. Like improv, like, you know... Short form improv... [22:37] And I, again, on my formative years, some of the, all the boys I had crushes on in college were doing like short form improv. Terrible, terrible. And yet it's so lame. Long form improv is cool, though. Stand up is the coolest thing.

[22:52] So back then, like if you were an improv or sketch group, you'd have your like costumes and wigs or you'd be warming up and stuff like that. You're right. Acapella and improv, both you have to warm up, like usually outside. You're like zip-zap-zopping. Yeah. That's not a cool art form. And I used to be like, we're cool. But then I'd see like a stand-up, just literally like throw their cigarette on the ground with a leather jacket and go on stage. And I'd be like, oh, okay. After you left Dartmouth, did you move to New York? I lived in New York for three years. [23:22] And you had some fun—I always love to ask people about their fun jobs, like their weird jobs. You had some good weird jobs, right? I had some really good weird jobs. What were some of your weird jobs? The weirdest job I had was that I was a PA at Crossing Over with John Edward. Right. The psychic—the psychic. Right. And he would do readings in the room and be able to tell— [23:44] if someone had, like, a dead relative who was trying to contact them. What was weird about it? All that? I can't believe you're asking. What was your, like— Now, do you believe in— Have you ever had a psychic experience? Do you go to psychics? I— [23:59] I don't go to psychics, but I would. Same. And as I've gotten older, even though I know more, I've gotten more superstitious than I used to be, to quote Michael Scott. I'm not superstitious, but I am a little stitious. I kind of feel like... [24:17] you [24:18] you know, [24:18] There's all different levels of... [24:21] like woo-woo, as Rachel Dratch would say, like, like, and whether or not you're open to it in your life. Yeah. And it is kind of a funny catch 22 where people are like, you have to be really open to it for it to like, you have to open your channel for it. I have the most losery astrological sign and the most losery number on the Enneagrams. Wow. I loved it because there's no loser number in the Enneagram. No, you have to say that. What would you think is a loser number? I'm a cancer

[24:51] Like a six is like... [24:53] Thank you, Amy. [24:55] But I have to say, I don't know that much about sixes. Yeah, because it's, you know. But it's the most common number. It is. Yes. Yeah. I definitely think it's accurate. Yeah. I feel seen. I haven't been able to use it practically to make my life better. I'm going to send you some fun GIFs or GIFs, however you like to say it. Please send me some GIFs or GIFs. I'm going to send you some fun, any of them, six GIFs or GIFs that you're going to love. I think they're a lot like the Harry Potter books. [25:20] homes you know that where everyone's like i'm a gryffindor harry potter thing um right i'm a straight up slytherin dude that's cool slytherin is cool i wish i was a slytherin what are you i i want to be a gryffindor but no i think i'm a hufflepuff which is also fine i want to refute it but listen all right say i'm right back at you okay but back to okay so you had some interesting jobs but i want to talk about matt and ben for a second because yeah that show was i remember when [25:50] For people that don't know, what was Matt and Ben? [25:53] Yes. Okay. So I was babysitting at the time and my friend was a substitute teacher and [25:59] a New York public school substitute teacher, my friend Brenda, and we were kind of miserable. And I had applied to be a page at the NBC page program, and I was certain I was going to get it, and then I didn't. And so we were just kind of like low level depressed, like post 9-11, just like in jobs, like why am I even in New York? Like I have no access to anything. And we started just improvising, and I kind of adopted this character of like Ben Affleck in quotations,

[26:29] did Matt Damon. And then we were like, we'd just be doing these characters for like 10, 15 minutes. And we're like, could we do something with this actually, as opposed to just like entertaining ourselves. And all of our friends thought it was so stupid. Yeah, great. And we just said like, let's write a little play about the creative process between friends and competition, which has been interesting to me for a long, long time and competition between friends who you dearly love each other, but you're also looking out for yourself. And we were, [26:59] were 21 or 22 writing about what we imagined Matt Damon and Ben Affleck were when they were 21, 22. It's so psychotic. Like if I was Matt Damon and Ben Affleck, I'd be like, this is. Have you ever talked to them about it? I have met Matt Damon once and Ben Affleck like a handful of times. And I think they think it's weird. This is a real person. They've been nothing but gracious. Of course. Very strange thing. I would not be nice if someone was playing Mindy Kaling in a play. [27:29] lawyers. My team of lawyers would descend upon them and crush them. But to their credit, Matt, Matt and Ben played. What if Ben played you? That would be pretty fun. I'd be I'd try to crush him with my lawyers. Yeah. Just cease and desist, babe. Just right away. Like padlock the theater door. I'm going to take all that good accountant money from you. Yeah. And accountant, too. I remember even at the time [27:54] I was like, this is radical because it was exactly it was like two young women kind of assuming that.

[28:01] what would be like in the heads of like, you know, they were Matt and Ben were archetypes for just like young men like. [28:10] working together and figuring out life together and i remember you guys making that show and i was like this is radical this is like oh my god that's so it was it was very cool well thank you for saying i mean it was so liberating to not have to worry about being pretty like we were dressed as men yeah it was um obviously we didn't invent camp but we got to discover how fun it was to just play men but really real yeah um and it was great to just um [28:36] We didn't have to worry about any of the things that our contemporaries were kind of worrying about because we wrote the script. We directed it ourselves. Yeah. And. It went to like Fringe, right? Edinburgh? So we did it at the Fringe Festival. We got into the Fringe Festival. We won the Fringe Festival. Then it moved off Broadway. And that's when it started getting like attention. That's when like a couple celebrities came and saw it. And that's how. [28:59] I moved to L.A. and how I got hired on the office. You go from Matt and Ben to basically being the only woman in a writer's room at the office. You are the only woman and the only woman of color in an incredibly smart, hyper-talented and... [29:15] Nice group of men, but still it is your first job. Yeah. I mean, you come from that world. It's competitive. And so I think that going into that room, a lot of people now will be like, wow, I can't believe you got hired in the office. You were so young. You must feel so great. When I look at the people who I was working with, they had been working since they were 21 and had already had Emmys. So I still felt like I was behind.

[29:45] I will say also, like, I was such a workaholic. It helped that I was like friendless in Los Angeles and had no hobbies because I was just obsessed with work. I was dazzled. [29:55] by like Mike, BJ, Paul Lieberstein, Greg, you know. Yeah. And who wouldn't be? Like I had never been in a writer's room. And then I'm with these guys who are like, even to this day, I consider some of the very best comedy writers. Then later, like Lee Eisenberg, Gene Stipnitsky, like just as dazzling. Yeah. And so I really wanted to impress them. Yeah. I really wanted to date some of them. Yeah. Right. And I was varying degrees of successful in those. And when Kelly Kapoor was that, [30:23] written like how did how did you find out you were going to be on the show the way that I got the part was I think BJ had written this episode called diversity day and one of I think one of the funniest episodes in the office ever and Greg decided that it would be the second episode and in order for it to be funny that like Michael Scott was offending a room of people it didn't it wasn't as funny if it was just like all white like you needed to be offending some people right [30:53] lucky to be in the writer's room and being Indian because he's like, would you play someone that he offends and then slaps him? And I was, I mean, I was just content to be a comedy writer for the rest of my life. That was like my dream come true. So to be on camera was like, just like, [31:10] outrageous. The one thing I think is so groundbreaking about The Office was that at that time, the aughts, like to be on a show where you didn't have to be like a straightforwardly hot woman. Yes. Like the whole point is, you know, and this is a real Greg Daniels thing. It's like, what is beautiful is what is real. Yes. And that wasn't very many shows. That's right. That's right. I also like love, and I'm sure you feel this way too. Actually, maybe you don't, but I love being a

[31:39] Are you kidding me? It's my dream. When people send me a... Like, I've actually been like... [31:44] Can I send people my own memes? Oh, do it. It's such a mic drop. It might be too weird. But there's no higher compliment. Yeah. [31:53] I send people memes of Kelly saying this day is bananas. [31:58] All day long to Dave and Ike. I mean, Kelly Kapoor is the to me, the definition of what the young people would say, like someone who has main character energy. She is in her own world, her own show. And in that show, it's fun to be a nice, I think, to be, you know, she is a tertiary character, but believe she's a main character. That's like a really nice. Yes. She has one line every three episodes. Yeah. She's in her own very like intense play and drama forever. [32:28] I would say any good character, like the show, and you know from writing, you start to realize what people's strengths are and you start to write to it. [32:37] the show starts to realize like, oh, what Kelly can do is like be in this kind of fierce... [32:44] competitive fantasy world that can allow us to like, [32:48] Like you shoot a lot of threes in that show because you like. Thank you. That character is able to go to some really sharp and funny places. Well, she thinks she's the hottest person at the office. Yeah. And like feels bad for Pam. She is. You know, and thinks like Ryan's a huge catch and that she's like destined for, you know, fame. And so that is a fun. I mean, it's so fun to play like delusional characters. Yeah.

[33:18] to be able to then [33:21] be delusional on the Mindy project with a different character. It was fun. Okay, good. That's a good segue because you go from—I just want to say you ended up writing more Office episodes than anybody else. Thank you for saying that. Okay, so everybody needs to know that. So all your Office episodes that you love, that everybody's watching every night, there's high probability that Mindy wrote it. You're saying it like my publicist was like, this is a talking point that needs to come across, Amy. I mean, I could talk about this with you forever, and maybe it's too kind of inside baseball, [33:51] - Sure. [33:51] But [33:51] And then [33:53] like in that same time became a performer and, [33:57] And you're also a producer. And all those things have, like, different pros and cons. You really did do it for Mindy. I did it. You were like, I'm going to write, create, and star in this show. And there's nothing harder. There's nothing harder. That's so hard. And there's nothing more gratifying. Yeah. Like, I was so obsessed with it. I mean, and then coming from the office where I had been there for eight years had, like, a... [34:19] align every episode. You know, [34:21] I was thinking about like recently just like call sheets. Yeah. And to be like the call sheet for people who don't know but they might know is, you know, it's every day it just announces the hierarchy of the production. I love a call sheet so much. Yeah. I could stare at it forever for people that don't know. It's one piece of paper that tells you your entire day, week, week. [34:42] month and in many ways your life you're exactly right it tells you who is number one who is number two who is number three who is number four it lists the importance and descending order of the people that are there and so for years on that show as is obvious and and should be like

[34:57] Steve is number one, playing Michael Scott. And Kelly is number 11. Mm-hmm. [35:03] It's not like, you know, to come at the, we just talked about the first season when I was just lucky to have that first, you know, in episode two, being able to be in that scene with Steve and to be able to be in SAG and be able to actually do all that. That's huge. But eight years later, I was like, number 11 gets a little old. And I was like, I really want to see what it's like to literally just have more lines. Yeah. And to be able to take on the thing of like being the comedy engine of a show. [35:33] did this with Parks and probably on SNL too, but like it's a skill to be able to [35:39] be the star of a sitcom and come in and just be like, my engine is on from seven o'clock in the morning until we wrap. Yeah. And I am just like, I had to bring the best out of other people and wake them up first thing in the morning. Yeah. And kind of like a constant host. Yeah. Yeah. And it's, [35:56] And you were watching people leave all day. That was the other thing that was so sad. On Friday night, you're just waving goodbye to all your friends. Everyone's rapping and they're like, have a good weekend. You're like, you too. Like, it's just the saddest goodbye. But at the same time, I felt like the days were so much shorter than when I had one line at the office. Yeah. Like the day flows by because it's just like funny scene after funny scene. Entire departments who are there to help you do your job the best. Yeah. You know, and that was like such a joy.

[36:26] show, but like that was, it was what I was longing for and to assemble my own writing staff. So many of whom like... [36:33] Lang Fisher, Tracy Wigfield, Ike, Dave, Matt Warburton. Who are doing a great new show right now. Four Seasons with Tina. Yeah. And so to be able to work with all these people that made me better, inspired me. And let's talk about our friend Ike. Yeah. Baron Holtz, who was here and who you met on that show. Yeah. And Dave Stassen. Those guys are, I mean, let's just, Ike is listening. So we should say something nice about him. We should say something nice about him. Yeah. [36:59] Look at us making sure that the white guy is taken care of. Feel comfortable and seen. Look at us. It's just because, you know, his personality is that like he would he would do that for us. He would. [37:14] This episode is brought to you by Hilton. Did you hear Paris Hilton has like a billion Hilton honors points? Well, she calls them Paris points, and Hilton is helping her give them all away this summer. Use them for that wedding or pleasure, that's business and pleasure, or maybe book a stay just for sleep. As Paris would say, that's sliving. Just make sure you're a Hilton honors member and follow Paris and Hilton on the socials to see how Paris points can be your points. [37:44] make your summer slay, it matters where you stay. This episode is brought to you by All Free Clear Detergent. Are you trying to be a bit more mindful of the things you buy for you and your family? You know, reading the labels, checking the ingredients, trying to understand what all those letters, numbers, and long words mean? I get it. Sometimes we don't really know what's in the things we buy and we want to feel good about our choices. So when it comes to laundry detergent,

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[40:00] finish the baby part. Yeah. No, but, but your, your character was kind of a tribute to her and your mom. Can you speak a little bit about your mom? You spoke, you speak about her all the time and she seemed just amazing. I love talking about my mom. So the character on the Mindy Project, I mean, she was, she couldn't have been more different than my mom's. [40:19] personality. [40:21] But I loved the world of playing an OBGYN. My mom's had such a great personality because she spent her entire day with women telling who told her the most personal things about their love lives and reproductive hopes and just everything and all their problems. It's such a personal relationship. And to have a world like that, it was like, honestly, some of it was laziness. I didn't have to research that much. I just understood what the office looked like and what the nurses were like. [40:51] So that was that. I also think it's nice for a lead character in a show, particularly when the character is so out there and sort of selfish and flawed, to have such a selfless job. Yeah. You know, helping women. You were like, inherently, she's a good person, even if all she says all day is that she wants to get married and get railed by hot men. You know what I mean? You're like, okay, like she's helping women through some of the hardest transitions of their lives. [41:21] deliver a baby? Do I feel like I could deliver a baby? Do you think you could? I feel like I could affect the confidence that could really put a woman at ease. Oh, yeah. Do you know what I mean? And I think...

[41:31] This is like a real stupid actor over Confin Talk. I feel like a good theory. I think you could. I've had three kids. I feel like... I was watching. Yeah, I feel like... [41:41] You could deliver a baby. Teach you. I think, I mean— [41:46] I have a problem where I think I can do things that I wouldn't be able to do. Like what? Deliver a baby. Deliver a baby. I feel like I could. I don't want to, but I feel like there's a part of me that's like I could at least be enthusiastic about like getting people to push. I think there's some parts that would freak me out a little bit. Sewing a lady back up. Yeah, we don't need to do that. Let a nurse do it. We're going to get somebody to come in and finish it up. I just mean the delivery part. Yeah, I don't think I could do a C-section. [42:16] No, C-section. Forget it. No, I'm not going to do that. You know what? I take it back. [42:22] We shouldn't do it. [42:23] Um, we shouldn't do it. We shouldn't be around anyone who is pregnant. Um, um, oh, and then before I move on to, um, your more TV stuff, I do want to talk about, we had a really fun trip one time, you and I, where we went to Cannes together. Yeah. For Inside Out. And it was like, I've never been before or since I've never been back to Cannes. It was really glamorous. And it was very glamorous. It was the first time I had ever been on that kind of like international, like press tour, like on the steps of the, [42:53] Amen. [42:54] Amy, I think about that press store so much. I do, too. I think about it a lot. One— [42:59] I was so hot and sweaty. Yeah. Very hot and sweaty. Like we were always like in the beating sun. Yeah. And like, but beautiful. Yes. But like always like I was sweating through my clothes constantly. And I remember this distinctly, and maybe this is offensive, that we would be doing like an international junket. And unlike an American junket.

[43:20] It would be like, the questions would be like, I don't know, maybe because of, I don't know, culturally it was just a... Ruder, let's just say it. Why are you, you are so fat. You're smiling, but your face is not nice to look at. If your face is not nice... Why do you think that people like to look at your face? In America, a fat, unsmiling woman can be starved. We've read you can, you have your own sitcom, but you are fat. Yes. You are obviously Hufflepuff, and yet you believe you're Gryffindor. [43:50] stuff like that you play joy but you are not in your 20s yes and you didn't smile at me when i was asking you a question so i don't find you joyful at all and so okay remember you know that javier bardem clip when he's on a junket that has gone viral where someone's like he was working with penelope cruz and he's a european journalist is like so you work with your wife you must be crazy to work with a woman like that you're married to most people would want to kill themselves if [44:20] very offensive and I was like watch that and I was like oh like if only like can you I could never imagine sticking and being having a spine in an international press junket and being like how dare you sir I was like just laugh I mean I feel uh let me ask you what are your generational um pronouns how do you identify are you a millennial do you identify as millennial hey

[44:50] of the Zennial. Okay. Which was a, have you heard of the Zennial? Zillennial. Zillennial. Zillennial. No, I don't, I'm, this is making you be a millennial. This is making me be a millennial. But I was like, oh, thank God. Because when I was growing up, like when I was like in middle school, like the movie Singles was out. Yeah. And I was like, that's to me, Gen X. That's Gen X. You know, Ben Stiller. Yes. That's Gen X, right? Yeah. And then now Zennial went away and now they're just [45:20] Like Ike and Dave are like, we're all Gen X together. That's not true. They're making themselves younger than they are. You have a lot of Gen X qualities, I will say. And I love Gen X. I love Gen X too. But you're 10 years younger, so you might be like millennial. To your point about... [45:38] pleasing, like getting somebody who's hard to please, I realize I have that with boomer men. [45:44] Interesting. I'm just a little bit like in there, like mid 65. I'm like, you know, a little like boss. I situation saying that may is so resonates with me because I felt that way about Greg. Yes. Greg and like Conan. Yes. You know, and then obviously all the SNL people that were there when you were there. Like, I feel exactly the same way. But now I'm technically the same generation, which is breaking my heart. Yeah, that's a little weird. But I do feel that way. Because they were the gatekeepers. [46:14] Conan, you were, you were, uh, you did get that page job. I was an intern at Conan. So I didn't, when I was still in college, I applied to be an intern at Conan. That's actually, that job is what made me thought that I maybe would get the page job because those internships were like considered hard to get. Um, and that's where I first learned, um,

[46:34] what comedy writers did. Although like a variety show comedy writer is like such a different job than like a sitcom comedy writer. And I actually think the personalities of a variety show comedy writer is very different than a sitcom guy personality. How is it different? [46:47] I think that there's, well, I think of one is like a quintessentially New York job. Although, of course, there's variety shows out on the West Coast and one is like an L.A. job. Yeah. I think they are both very funny, but there's like a more, this is not true, but this is the way I thought of it. But like there was more of like a cerebral darker energy to New York variety show writers, right? Where it was like joke, joke, jokes. How do we get the best jokes? Monologue sketches. [47:17] and then you're done if you live or die by hard jokes. And then the sitcom writers, which is like story. Yeah. Let's think about the characters. And so as someone who wanted to be in the New York world, but that was slammed, the door was slammed shut in my face. I kind of came up in this other world. And so I always thought like, oh my God, that's so intimidating. That's why I guest wrote on SNL. Right. Which is where I think that was the first time I met you. Okay. I was trying to remember the first time we met. Was it when you were guest writing? [47:47] I was a guest running at 2005. Yeah. And that was when I met you and Tina. And I remember this and I don't know why I remember this story and I'm not proud of it. And I don't know why I would possibly come up with two women that I admire and just came up. I don't know, but we were somewhere and I was like, yeah, I just want to lose 30 pounds. And the two of you stopped and were like, what? That is too much weight. And I remember that.

[48:12] I was so happy for like three weeks after that. I was like, wow, Amy and Tina don't think I'm a fat load. Like I was so happy. Even in the aughts, like you guys are like, what are you crazy? But I was thinking like, why would I have, [48:27] told that to them. That's so weird. I would say because if we're to get real, it's because that's how women talk to each other. Is that, I think it is. Like, I think we all like Weight Watchers. It was because at the time there was a conversation about Weight Watchers. I think, you know, we were like, we just like everybody else were like constantly trying to figure out everybody's relationship to being on camera. Yes. And I do think that for better or for worse, what women do for [48:53] each other and to each other is they talk about their bodies to each other. Like we are, we like, you know, it's one of the things I love so much. And I, I am sure you're the same way. Like I love about my female friends is I can really say like, I'm feeling this way and that way. And it's kind of how we like say hello. No, I mean, I think to be able to be with two of my heroes and have them acknowledged, cause you could have easily been like, we don't ever think about it. We're naturally [49:23] understand i just it's i just eat whatever i want i mean for you to say that that you weren't just like we are naturally then we eat whatever we want you didn't and so i think that that was a i think a really it was a kindness for you to acknowledge like oh yeah that so i could i could see that in my heroes but it is really

[49:44] It is really fascinating and nice that culture has changed so much. It has, but it has and it hasn't, right? Because we're still asking people about their weight. We're still asking people about their bodies. I mean, I actually really try. I have a couple of like rules that I never say out loud on this podcast. But one of them is I try not to talk about people's bodies because it's like. [50:03] People's bodies are their own business. If you had the male cast of off campus here. Yeah. I'd want them. I just want them to throw me against that bookshelf. Yeah. And they'd flex and they'd be fine with it. I know it's a fine line. But you can't. You can't. Yeah. You can't. And it's good. It's good that you can't. It's good that. Okay. But this is a good segue into the. Okay. Because you have made. Well, into not suitable for work. Okay. Okay. Yes. Yes. What you can't do. Yes. What you can't do. [50:33] I'm so surprised. Like, I was wondering, what is this a segue to? But you have a new show out on Hulu, Not Suitable for Work. Yes. And it is—you've called it kind of the third in a trilogy— [50:43] I'm really trying to get that I have a trilogy that I'm like Peter Jackson you're a mogul, you have a trilogy I have a trilogy, just like me I mean, one of the things about being a mogul is you have to start [50:55] Talking like everything you did was like a perfect... [51:01] You know? [51:02] It's all part of a master plan that I... A master plan. I have to embody that more. Yeah, a master plan. That things are not just like accidental. No. It's just whatever's happening. No. Making it up on the spot. You're like, this makes sense because this is the third in the installment. But you have made three TV shows, Never Have I Ever.

[51:20] Sex Eyes of College Girls. Sex Eyes of College Girls, thank you. And Not to Do a Workplace. All three are like... I mean, they're very, very different. But what would you say is a unifying theme in all of them? I think... [51:32] I love writing for underdogs. Yeah. [51:36] And ambitious people and people with lots of big wants and needs, both like romantically and professionally and who feel like they don't have access to it. And that's sort of, I think, the thing in common with all three of those shows. Yeah. A lot of horniness. Working on Not Suitable for Work. I mean, this cast is, they're so funny. They're so good. And they were all, none of them were unknown. [52:06] super well known yet. But Will Angus was in a very popular sketch troupe. Ella Hunt was on that wonderful show. Dickinson Avantika was in Mean Girls. But this is just a... [52:16] A way to have them all together. And they're super funny. They're super appealing. And I loved working with them. Avantika is who we spoke to today to get the question for you. Really? And Avantika is... [52:30] So we did, you know, we do this thing at the beginning where we talk well behind our guests back. And I really wanted to speak to Ivanka for a couple of reasons. One is she is like— [52:41] You know, you... [52:43] You are the example of what she watched growing up. You were... [52:49] representation in real physical form, somebody who wrote their own parts, who...

[52:54] who created their own stuff for themselves and who also, like you said, like enjoy... [53:00] Like, we... [53:01] you enjoy being entertained. Your shows are not [53:05] homework no I think I'm not writing shows for like television studies professors yes do you know what I mean not that I don't think that's an important job and things but I'm I want to do something that's like when times are hard that's right you know when like my mom was sick and we wanted to watch something it's like we watched Modern Family it was like I want to watch something that's like legitimately so funny yes um yeah and I like seeing people fall in love and I love like [53:32] great costumes and doing something in the city. I also love The Office where it has not those qualities, but it's super funny. But I do know what you're saying, and I take it as a compliment. And she spoke about being around you and, like, your curiosity. And also just, like, your curiosity about other people's lives and young lives and, like, really, like, your support as a producer and as a person. And also, Mindy, just what I think is so impressive about you is you— [54:01] you feel like you're working within the system and you're also, you know, [54:06] um, [54:08] still a person who [54:10] like [54:11] like the rest of us, I guess. So it's like you are this mogul who also is like just along for the ride, like the rest of us. Like it's very hard to do both of those things. And I think you do it really, really well. Thank you. Oh, my gosh. And she speaks about that. And it's funny. Her question is so cute. It was like, what is your EGOT? But she was like, what are four things that Mindy wants? I know. I said, that's too many things. That's so many things. I agree. Do you feel this way where—

[54:41] If you see a movie you love or you listen to an album or you see a Broadway musical, you're kind of like, should I like try to write a Broadway musical? Podcast. Or should I, like I'll listen to it and I'll go to, I'll go, but which you're nailing. So now you should do the next thing. I feel you. I see something and I'm like, should I try it? Should I try that? And that's, like, I think notoriously how bad art is formed, right? When people do stuff that they're not equipped to do but have this delusional feeling that they can. And I've done that many times. [55:11] really impressed by is like I always think about Jordan Peele and Greta Gerwig. Oh yeah. And how as does the rest of the world but I love that Jordan came from sketch comedy. Yes. And with Greta like coming from being an actress and like the muse of Noah Baumbach and then being like well I want to direct and [55:32] then taking something like Barbie and making it like this great movie about feminism. And so, and now doing the Narnia stuff. Like, so I'm always really inspired by them. I think that's the thing is I'd love to be able to write things. [55:44] and direct movies yes um another thing and this is not creative but like i feel like my feed on instagram is just always about how fleeting our time with our children is it's just like it's just like frightening post after frightening post about how like you have 18 summers with these people like i didn't know it was the last time i would pick him up exactly it's like jesus christ these haunting things about these wonderful children that i love and so i really want to be

[56:14] And. [56:15] hang with them and be with them in a real way where they look back at it and they're like, how was mom able to do that? But then also do these other be there for us so much at the time. And I know I'll fail, but like, I really want to try to be there. My mom, [56:29] really set the bar. She was so busy. Like we missed Thanksgiving's because she was delivering a baby. She wasn't there for the school play. And I was the perfect match for her as a daughter because I just thought it was like glamorous. Yeah. And I was like, wow, mom's like really doing a lot. But I have three kids. I don't know that they're going to think maybe one of them will be that way and the other two won't. So I got to really, I got to really invest in being them. So that's the second thing. What else would I want to do? I don't want to hold public office. No, [56:59] I don't want to adopt like seven kids. I love the people who do that. I can't. Three is enough. Three is a lot. [57:06] I don't think I want to, like, teach at a college. You don't know that. You don't know that. Don't rule that out. Think about this. Okay, I like this. Think about this future, though, like, that you get to come in. Like, I often think about, you know, like, the next decade. Think about coming in, like, a beautiful sweater, like Dartmouth, let's say. Yeah. [57:29] Drive in at 10 o'clock in the morning. [57:32] You have your coffee. [57:34] You know, the door creaks open and there's like 150 kids staring at you and you start your class. [57:43] Nobody gets to interrupt. You're done in an hour.

[57:46] You know, [57:47] You write a book about it. [57:49] Then you write a movie about it. That's all I'm saying. I think that, that sounds, that does sound good. Doesn't that sound good? That does sound good. We don't have to grade papers. No papers. Nothing like that. That's not part of this. Well, it'll all be like robot. There'll be no paper. AI will be doing it for you. Yeah, there'll be no paper. I like that. Or I also like when they, you get to a certain age and then like TV shows just want like that kind of like decrepit grand dame. Oh, yeah. To come in. You just say a couple lines and everyone's like laughing. They just like lift you onto a seat. Yeah. I want to get to the point where people are like, she looks good. [58:19] This has been so fun, Mindy. Has it been? Yeah. I'm so. That's very Enneagram 6 of you. It is. That's very Enneagram 6 of you. No, I'm stressed. Tell me why. No, I just, I love this so much. [58:33] I've been very entertained by previous episodes. And I'm just fast-forwarding to my nanny Jenny sitting on the sofa today. [58:41] Yeah. And hoping that she doesn't click away. [58:44] No, she's going to have. I mean, she's going to be wrapped. She's going to be wrapped. Okay. And also, my last question to you is, like, what are you—because I know you are, like, you're a pop culture— [58:57] Yeah. What, who is making you laugh these days? What, what, when you, when you want to, like, you know, I know for me, it's hard for me to kind of watch comedy. Like it's like, what do you watch to check out, tune out, laugh, like feel, like, [59:12] Like, is it a video? Is it TikTok? Is it a show? Is it? I'm not on TikTok for no real reason. It's not like a decision, but I think it's tied to in some way like productivity. Like I'm worried I'd be too into it. Damn, that's so true. But for me, the biggest thing that I'm into, I mean, I

[59:31] I do like a lot of dramas. And like your friend Emily Spivey, love murder. But I think for me, I loved The Curse. Is that, that's the right name. It was the Nathan Fielder show. Yes. Really strange and interesting. Really, let's talk about Nathan Fielder. And Nathan Fielder, who is like, [59:51] I think for people my age or women, he's a real heartthrob, too. He's a millennial heartthrob. [59:58] Big time. And I'm happy for him. He's so funny and talented. With Emma Stone, I loved that show. Yes. That was a really good weird show. Weird show. Yeah. And then, I mean, it's honestly, like, it's like, what don't I like? Yeah. Like, most of the time, I like stuff. Like, I like all the things that you would expect. Like, I love Abbott, and I love Hacks, and I like all the dramas. Like, who doesn't like The Pit? [1:00:21] Like, I like those things. And that's like, I love, it's such a delight to watch them and see people who are really good at their craft doing things. Yeah. You're able to enjoy still knowing, knowing how things work. You're able, like, kind of like in the very beginning and when we started talking about it, which is like, you know how hard it is to make something good. Totally. Mindy Kaling, thank you for being here. Thank you for taking the red eye. Only for Amy Poehler. I'm so happy you could do this. Thank you so much for doing it. Thank you, Amy. It was such a, it was such a good thing. It was so good. Thanks, everybody. [1:00:51] Thank you so much, Mindy Kaling. You're always so honest and forthcoming and funny. And it was really great to have you. And, you know, Mindy and I got into a lot of really interesting topics, including being a working mother and deciding to just do the things you love and try to, as best you can, avoid the things that you hate. And I have a strong feeling about that. I feel like in motherhood, there's things that you like, you love, you feel neutral about, and you really don't like to do.

[1:01:21] And if you can try to avoid the things that you really don't like to do, then the rest, you know, the rest might come a little easier. So some people get stressed around, you know, bath time. Some people don't want to go to the park. Some moms hate bath. [1:01:38] taking their kids to get shots. Um, I mean, who loves that, but you know what I mean? Either way, I would just say, give yourself a break. You're not supposed to love everything. And it doesn't make you a bad mom. If you don't, um, try to offload anything that you really, really, really have a hard time handling and, um, and don't ever feel guilty about it because God, we just really beat ourselves up and enough's enough, you know? Um, so I guess that's my polar plunge today. I [1:02:08] I just am thinking about all the ways in which we make it harder for ourselves and are harder on ourselves. Let's try to take some lessons from this interview and do a better job this week. Do a better job of not doing a good job. Okay. Bye. [1:02:25] You've been listening to Good Hang. The executive producers for this show are Bill Simmons, Jenna Weiss-Berman, and me, Amy Poehler. The show is produced by The Ringer and Paper Kite. For The Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Kat Spillane. [1:02:38] Kaya McMullen and Alea Zanaris. For Paper Kite, [1:02:41] Production by Sam Green, Joel Lovell, and Jenna Weiss-Berman. Original music by Amy Miles.